How To Feel Differently About Your ADHD kid

I hear things like this all the time from my clients:

"I'm so overwhelmed by Jack's behavior. He's so wild."

"My daughter just can't make friends."

"This is a disaster."

"I'm embarrassed that my child is different."

"What's wrong with this kid?"

"He's going to be a failure."

"Mornings are a nightmare."

"I've tried everything to get through to this kid. Nothing works."

What do all of these things have in common? They are THOUGHTS.  They are the story we tell ourselves. You may have good reason to choose these thoughts.  I'm not saying you don't.  But do yourself a favor and read each one again.  Pay attention to the feeling you get when you read them.

This is critical. The thoughts we think about someone determines the way we feel about them. The way we feel about someone determines how we act toward them.  Did these thoughts give you a positive feeling? Are you going to feel loving if you are thinking, "What's wrong with this kid?"  For sure not.

If you want to feel differently about your child you need to start thinking differently about them. I'm not talking about hollow positive affirmations. I'm not talking about sunshine fairy land where nothing is hard.  I'm not telling you to lie to yourself. But surely we can find some thoughts that are true that feel better than the ones above.

There's a problem with this though.  You believe your thoughts.  When you say what you are thinking, you think you are telling the truth.  You think you are stating facts when in fact, you are telling your story.  It's difficult to see that it IS a story.  If you want to change your story, you must first become aware of the story you have been telling.

That's what a coach is for.  I'm not here to tell you what you should do.  I'm not going to give you advice on how to raise your child or what medications he should or shouldn't take.  You are the Mom. You know what's best for your child and you know how to figure it out. My job is to help you see your story.  After that, if you want to keep your story, you totally can.

But maybe you want to feel better.

Maybe you want to feel more love for your child.

Maybe you want to show up better as a Mom.

Maybe you want to have a better relationship with your child.

Maybe you don't want to have to yell as much.

Maybe you don't want to feel so stressed out and overwhelmed all the time.

Schedule a free mini session with me and I'll show you how to start changing your story if you want to.